During prayer meeting via zoom on Friday, 1st of May, we were asked to pray for a lady who had lost one of her eyes from domestic violence and was to undergo a surgery. This hit me really hard as I had seen on the 29th of April 2020, Sun newspaper sharing horrific photos of women in domestic violence with 14 killed during the lockdown as of that date, Four women had released their pictures showing them battered and injured and also shared their stories.
There has been an increase (49%) in calls to domestic abuse hotline since the lockdown began in the UK. I know that with the virus (covid19) a lot of people have died and deaths are being announced each day. Praying and trusting that a cure/solution is found real soon.
The UK government is providing new funds(£76m) to help victims of modern slavery and sexual abuse. JK Rowling donated £1m towards the cause. This will definitely go a long way and support charities and also keep them afloat at this very trying time.
There are also those going through mental health struggles at this time. Staying locked in for so long has for some being a real nightmare, some have no one they trust to share their struggles and woes with.
This is a time for everyone to check on loved ones regularly. If you know someone in an abusive relationship, please don’t give up on them, check on them. I know it’s tricky for some as the victims sometimes do not believe they are victims.
On the Good Morning Britain the other day, a mother called in as she was worried about her daughter who she felt had a controlling partner. The daughter on the other hand saw nothing wrong which got the mother very worried.
Some have become so psychologically abused that they have no mind of their own. A lot are too scared to make the right decision which would be to leave their partners. Abuse is not just psychological, it can be physical (like the women who came out to share their stories in the SUN newspaper), it can also be emotional, sexual or financial.
Let’s not forget that domestic violence doesn’t happen to only women, men too get abused. But the stories coming on the news and social media are all about women, so my focus has been on what has been reported.
Victims of domestic abuse need to be able to reach out for help easily. Emergency numbers should be able to connect them as quickly as possible. Also, getting early mental health support/therapy after going through so much trauma would be a great way to help victims.
Hopefully, shelters will be made available for those who need them if not available in areas/boroughs they live in.
Sadly, this is happening all over the world and it just breaks my heart. To get help in the UK during an emergency, please call 999. In a situation where you are unable to speak, make a sound and you’re (the caller) in a lot of danger to make a sound, press 55 when prompted otherwise the police will not be dispatched.
Other numbers to contact for help- Women Aid Domestic Violence Helpline. Phone-0808 2000 247
Domestic Violence Assist – specialises in assistance to obtain emergency injunctions from further abused. Phone- 0800 195 8699
Hourglass- This is a confidential helpline that provides information and support to anyone concerned about harm, abuse or exploitation of an older person. Phone- 0800 808 8141
Men’s Advice Line- Confidential helpline for male victims of domestic abuse. Phone- 0808 801 0327
National Centre for Domestic Violence- Specialises in assistance to get emergency injunctions from being further abused. Phone-0800 970 2070
Please stay safe during this pandemic and lockdown period, but also be your brother’s keeper. Check on people you know regularly.