I recently heard a story about two friends (let’s call them Shelly and Samantha) who fell out. Shelly got very spiteful and went about telling secrets she knew about her once best friend and spoiling her so badly that her friend could barely handle the whispers and talks she was hearing via the grapevine.
Feeling awful and angry, Samantha also started to spill the secrets of Shelly. Things have now gone out of hand and even affecting their homes.
A lot of times, we get hurt by those we love and trust. People who we have confided in and put our trust in. We never imagine that the things we have told them in confidence would one day out of anger, envy or even gossip make them sell us out.
How do you handle your anger? Are you one who when offended would sell out the one you claim you love? or would you just vent, get angry but never ever consider for a minute to spite the one who has hurt you?
The scripture tells us that ‘a soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger’- Proverbs 15:1. How we respond to anger from the other person will determine how far the argument or quarrel will get to.
Learning to control how we react to what we hear is the wisest way out of such situations. With me, I still struggle with how I react/respond when I get or feel offended, but I never think of causing pain or hurt to whoever causes me pain. I’d rather stay clear of such a person for a while after letting them know exactly how I feel about what they did.
I am at a phase where I am learning to bridle my tongue more. ‘The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright, but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness’- Proverbs 15:2. Psalm 39:1- ‘I said, I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue. I will keep my mouth with a bridle while the wicked is before me’.
By learning or training yourself to control how you react or respond, helps to avoid unpleasant situations and brings more self-respect. Know that not all arguments are worth winning. Just walk away, and keep your dignity intact.
As we begin a new week, remember to put a smile on someone’s face. Maybe buy a cup of coffee or a meal for that one person you know really needs it.
Stay Sparkling and keep your smile on.