Monday, 14 August 2017

WHO IS A FRIEND (II)

Last week I tried to describe my views on what true friendship is.

Friendship requires one major thing-
SACRIFICE.

Sacrifice can be in several forms. I'll be looking at sacrifice of  Time, Humility and Intimacy

TIME :
There is a saying I heard growing up -"what are friends for if not for inconveniences".

I used to think it was silly then, but now I realise this is so true.

As a friend,  you should be able to drop whatever you are doing to go help a friend when needed.

You should be able to say, I can't go into work today, my friend needs me.
Yes, it may not be convenient, ( you might even grumble or go grudgingly ) but you must be able to make that decision as a true friend.

Time can be given in different ways. From creating time to sharing emotions,  financial issues and so on.
 "A friend in time of need is a friend indeed".

Picture credit: Karen Salmonsohn.

HUMILITY:
As friends, we learn to understand each other,  we know what could easily upset one another.  When we know these things, we avoid situations that would bring out such traits in the other person.

For instance, I am known to argue alot (haha), especially when I feel I'm right. I got the nick name from an uncle "The Law"  for this. (I can be a parrot too, I know lol).

But my close friends understand me well. They know when to go quiet and I get the message. I know at that point it's time to shut up. 

We must never feel too proud or more relevant than the other person for it definitely takes a friend to make a friend.


INTIMACY:
A friend would have the time and patience to listen to you,  having good listening skills allows good communication. 

 A friend shouldn't be there in just good times but also during bad times.
Be supportive no matter what.  A friend you can lean on come rain or sunshine.

A friend who gets envious or jealous when you are celebrating OR a tiny bit happy when things go sour, is not a friend.( trust me,  some friends do get that bit of happiness when things go sour. Be it in relationships, work or even education).

We allow ourselves become vulnerable as we become close to one another, even though sometimes it could bring discomfort. We can share our thoughts, dreams, desires, experiences and views without feeling judged.


We could go on and on about friendship and who a real friend is but in conclusion, before you accuse a friend of not being true to you or not being there; ask yourself this.

Am I a true friend to my friend(s)?

As a friend, you need to search yourself from time to time; see if your behaviour is what you would expect from your friends ( do unto others what you'd want them to do to you).
Are you happy with the outcome you got?
Remember,  friendship is NOT a competition.


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Share your views of what you think or feel friendship is about and what you think a true friend should be like.

Please don't hesitate to share and leave a comment at the end of this post..

Stay true and keep Sparkling  x











4 comments:

  1. Wow.. So spot on Sparkles 😍. I believe that friendships can make or break you. So surround yourself with friends that speak truth, postivity and goodness into your life.
    It is just as important that we also are a blessing to people in our lives. We cannot just expect to take!

    Am Sparkling 😘😍. Thank you Sisi Alero

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    1. Definitely darling Ivie. You are so right. We shouldn't just keep taking, we have to give back as well.
      Thanks for dropping a comment. 😘

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  2. Friendship is indeed not competition, to be surrounded by true friends is really important. Good one dear; i am sparkling hun.😙😚

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    1. It is my darling... When one is surrounded by true friends, it is amazing how you get support from all angles. Friends cam mean parents, family,anyone really. Thank you for our comment. X

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