Wednesday, 28 November 2018

FAITH WEDNESDAY.


No matter what the situation is or how bad you are pushed, learn to control your temper. Some people when angry or provoked, will let out secrets because they want to get even or say very horrible things about the person they are upset with.
 When they are calm, they feel terrible and want to apologise for all the wrong things they have said. A lot of times, saying sorry does not fix it. Why not just learn to speak softly. Better still, smile and walk away if you know you will be unable to stay calm. The tongue can stir up hate or love. Which will you choose?



Thursday, 22 November 2018

STORMS PASS.



Have you ever felt like you are drowning in all that you are going through and think this time around I doubt I will make it out? I understand that feeling totally. I went to bed last night feeling that way. A million and one things happening in one day and I thought to myself, 'It's enough now. I don't want to fight or struggle anymore'. 

Sleep at first was nowhere near, and I tried to pray but could not. I did the only thing I could. I sang, I hummed and sang and just worshipped Jehovah. 
In my process of worship, I wept as I began to recall the times He had seen me past things I thought would have drowned me. From my health issues to being kidnapped, been hit by a car that threw me in the air, to times I have had a gun to my head (not once, not twice), yet in all of these, I came out whole. Why then am I allowing the sound of thunderclaps scare me and worry me? I felt better, Thanked my God and Father for His love and mercies, and to help me through this storm after which, I went to sleep like a baby. 

I do not know what you are going through right now, or what you may be facing. It may seem overwhelming and that there may be no hope. Trust me, there is always hope. Like I always say, scream, shout, get the frustration and anger out but, never let go. Never stop believing and trusting. 
This storm too shall pass.


#storms #mentalhealth #quotes #isparkle #blogger

Tuesday, 20 November 2018

HAPPINESS..

Recently, I read somewhere that if you want to be happy, never ever have children. This made me laugh. Yes, there are people who feel overwhelmed after having children and some find it really difficult coping (which is no fault of theirs), but this does not mean everyone will go through the same process if they decide to have children.

For me personally, I love children and want to always be around them. I love the way they smell, their laughter, their happy and sad times. I love to sing and play with them. I mean, the thought of a child makes me smile. I definitely will be totally delirious when I do have a child, that's for sure.

What are the things that bring out the best in you? What gets you to that euphoric state? When was the last time you felt satisfaction, good cheer? If you cannot remember, then you have some work to do on yourself. Happiness brings with it excitement and merriment. Your happiness is important and should come first in all you do. This is because when you are happy, it enhances you in achieving your desired dreams and visions, it makes you more productive. You can also pass your positive vibe/ emotion to the next person. 

Start your day being happy. Smile, encourage yourself. I am in a bit of pain as I type this but, I am thinking happy thoughts, staying positive and spreading happiness to those around me and getting same back from them. Put away whatever or whoever may have upset or offended you, don't dwell on such things rather have positive thoughts and stay focused.


Stay Sparkling and be Happy. #happiness #wellbeing #blogger #love

Friday, 16 November 2018

RELAX

We sometimes work and work and hardly ever have the time to relax and simply enjoy ourselves. It's either we are too tired after all the work, or too busy to create time to just relax.
Work hard, in fact, work very hard but, please always create time for rest, for relaxation or a little bit of pampering. Show love to yourself. Give your body, mind, and soul a treat this weekend.
Stay Sparkling and enjoy the weekend.✨

Thursday, 15 November 2018

FOCUS.


"Life is not fair"- This is a term a lot of us use when things do not go as planned. We grow up with so many plans and the path we would like to take to attain success but alas, years later we look back and see we are far off course from those plans and also on a totally different path.

Agreed, life really is not fair to a lot of us but, we must learn to use what we have and where we find ourselves work for us and attain our dreams/visions. 
If like me, you have ever dreamt of owning your own properties (or whatever dreams you had for yourself), and you feel where you are at the moment is no way close to you achieving those dreams, know that it does not mean you can't achieve them. Listen, I tell myself that I may never own an estate of my own like I dreamt but, I will definitely own properties, I refuse to allow my dreams and plans to die. You too must not let your dreams die.

Whatever your dream/ vision may be, focus on it and plan towards it. Rome, as they say, was not built in a day. Well, nothing great happens in a day. Do not look at other people who are successful in areas of your dream and think "I can't be like them, I am not good enough". They too have a story, they also went through their journey before arriving at where you find them now. Do not envy anyone but rather, admire. Tell yourself one day, you too will be admired by someone else. This though can only be achieved through hard work and dedication.


WORKING TOWARDS MAKING YOUR DREAM YOUR REALITY:
  • Create a dream/vision board for yourself and place it where it will be visible.
  • Write your dreams/visions in stages so that they are not difficult to attain/ achieve (you could break them into monthly or quarterly stages so you have a target to meet).
  • Have a look at it daily and absorb it, let it speak to you and inspire you. 
  • Touch each vision/plan and picture yourself there.
  • Remind yourself why you have to carry on whenever you feel like you want to give up. ( this happens with me, especially when I feel weighed down).
  •  Encourage yourself by reading your daily affirmations.
Are you ready and willing to turn your dreams/visions into your reality?๐Ÿ˜•
Stay focused and stay Sparkling.✨

Tuesday, 13 November 2018

DEPRESSION AND MENSTRUAL PAIN - WITH ALERO.


Did you know that there are women going through depression due to their menstrual cycle? They go through so much each month and sometimes cannot find a way to explain how they feel because not everyone who has a period, has pain or would collapse/pass out due to being anaemic from their periods.

As a woman, our body goes through a monthly process called Menstruation. This is when the body sheds the lining of the uterus (womb). Menstrual blood flows from the uterus through the small opening in the cervix and passes out through the vagina. 

For some women, this process comes without any discomfort; while for some it is their worst nightmare. I happen to fall into the latter category. The pain, stress, and discomfort that comes with it for me caused me to miss classes while in University; miss work, or when I do go to work, I am barely able to function as I would be in so much pain. I would cry, bend over, throw up and generally be very ill.

My medication has been changed on a regular basis just so that I can function better but it rarely has any long-term effect as I soon begin to feel the pain after a while.

I have listened to people say, people with painful periods are attention seekers, or just being lazy. It always makes me so angry when I hear such statement because I doubt anyone would want to go through such pain for days, I certainly can do without it. Almost every other month, I got admitted into the hospital and a few times needed blood as I lose a lot each month, and due to the heavy blood loss, I am anaemic (I will do a full story on me soon).

Due to the stress and pain, a person goes through regularly from menstrual pain, they most times get agitated/anxious just as the time for the next period approaches. This is called or known as PreMenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). This is a condition whereby a woman becomes tensed up and anxious, gets irritated at and with anything and has severe depression symptoms before menstruation even begins. 

Alero Omatsola.

For years, I went through this process as I would dread how my period would disrupt my life for a week or sometimes, two weeks as the pain begins days before the period would even start and I would have an after pain session after the cycle ended. For me, it was a nightmare. I barely sleep, and I sit up through the cycle. This leaves me feeling drained and very tired. I often tried to prepare for it, taking painkillers before it began which never really stopped the pain but made it a bit tolerable. I am miserable and irritable most times, and as soon as my period begins, I would start taking my mefenamic acid, tranexamic acid, and norethisterone, which honestly did not do much but eased the pain just a bit which was better than nothing. Presently, I am on Naproxen and codeine/paracetamol. Oh and I always have my hot water bottle.

Signs Of PMDD :
a) Problems sleeping.
b) Fatigue.
c) Mood swings.
d) Lack of concentration.
e) Change in appetite.
f) feeling hopeless / depressed / sad.
e) Suicidal thoughts due to extreme pain and frustration.
g)Anxiety.
h) Lack of interest in daily activities.


Ways to help control PMDD :
a) Exercises
b) Eat healthy- fruits, vegetables, avoid sugar/ sweet things, and caffeine.
c) Medications -Antidepressants - if and when needed, painkillers such as naproxen, ibuprofen, aspirin (to name a few) - to help with back pain, headaches, menstrual cramps.
d) Find a way to take your mind off the pain and calculating the next period- I know this is hard, but once you can, you find yourself feeling more relaxed and less anxious.

If you find that you have any of the signs above, or find that you feel anxious, depressed as your period comes round, then please see a doctor. Speak to someone who can help you. You may not have to take antidepressants as I know some people get scared just thinking they would have to take that. I am not on any antidepressants. I got tired of taking so much medication (I usually joke about having a mini pharmacy by my bedside), I told myself that I would not allow the pain control my life any longer. Since then, I have been learning not to time myself or look forward to when the pain would come. My change in medication recently has also helped and I read more about my condition and learn more from doctors at every given opportunity.

Do you know anyone going through this or any menstrual condition? Encourage them to see a doctor, find out exactly what it is that is wrong and what treatment they can get. 
You can also share your thoughts about what you think or write to me - admin@isparklenow.com

No matter what you are going through, keep your Sparkle on and stay Sparkling.

Alero Omatsola.

                                               I am Sisi Alero and I Sparkle✨






Tuesday, 6 November 2018

TUESDAY INSPIRATIONS -Rudy Francisco - Count Your Blessings





No matter where you are, or where you find yourself; never ever forget to count your blessings.
Remember to smile and to leave a smile on someone's face today.
Good Morning and have a fabulous day ahead.
Stay Sparling. - Sisi Alero

Monday, 5 November 2018

MONDAY MOTIVATION.

Good Morning and welcome to another super amazing week. I trust that you had a splendid weekend and enough time to relax? As you begin a new week, I pray that you go into it with new ideas, wisdom, and understanding.

Do not ignore the amazing ideas you are inspired with, get an idea notepad and write down your ideas. Never ever think your dreams/ideas are too big or impossible. Keep working hard and believe in your dreams/ideas, they do come true.

Do have a very beautiful day and do not forget to put a smile on someone's face today.
Keep your head up and stay Sparkling.✨

#dreams


Thursday, 1 November 2018

ENCOURAGING HER.


Olayinka is a wife, and mother of two wonderful girls. She is an entrepreneur, trainer, and coach who is passionate about intentional parenting. She is the secretary and faculty member at Domint Institute, a ministry that trains believers with biblical principles that will equip them for their purpose in life.

She is the founder of Believers Mamas Hub whose mission is to see children blossom in the glory of God through emphasising on the significant role of a believing mother. When she is not working, she loves to spend time with her family, going out and reading.


Olayinka founded Believers Mamas Hub challenge, and the purpose of this challenge is to emphasise the importance of encouraging one another as she has seen lots of women not being supportive of each other, but rather compete against one another. 
As women, we need to show love to single mothers, especially young mothers(teenagers).

A lot of times, we hear the familiar voices of women who talk negatively about single mothers and teenage mothers. As women, we should be caring, supportive, be there for one another, however, this is not usually the case. We see women competing with one another and bringing one another down. 

You need to realise that single parents (mothers especially) are already going through a very tough time, passing insults and name calling will definitely not help or change the situation. Remember, no one prays to be in such a situation, but when it happens, they just have to make the best out of it.

Believers Mamas Hub is, therefore, running a challenge which begins to and runs through to the end of November. Encouraging Her. Encourage a mother in whatever way you can; in cash or materially, whatever you can afford will be appreciated.

To follow up, you can follow Olayinka on Facebook and on Instagram: @believersmamashub using the hashtag - #bmhencourageher


              This is Olayinka Thomas and I Sparkle as I encourage other women.

NOVEMBER!


Welcome to the eleventh month of the year 2018. It's NOVEMBER people๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ•บ
I am grateful to be alive to see this brand new day that I am certain will be loaded with amazing benefits, I hope you are as excited as I am๐Ÿ’ƒ.

There may be some going through very rough times. I know some have lost a loved one at this time, for some, a baby has just arrived; know that no matter what you are going through (if it's rough or bad), it is a phase that will pass soon enough. Be grateful to be alive and that you have another chance to make things better. There are sixty (60) days left before the year comes to an end, let's make the most of what is left. go into each day, hopeful and grateful.


Here's to a month loaded with harvest for all our hard work.
Stay Sparkling and go reap your harvest.



UNDAUNTED CHACHA.

Meet an amazing woman and mother striving to make a difference by teaching inclusion and spreading awareness about down syndrome and enco...