Tuesday, 30 October 2018

WHY ARE YOU HOLDING BACK?


We all have that one thing we would really like to do but keep holding back. Holding back because we do not want to fail, or get defeated, or hear the NO reply

What we need to realise is that if we keep holding back, we will never know if we would pass, be victorious or get the YES reply.

Back in my Diploma days whilst studying Accounting; We had a lecturer everyone was scared of. I needed to go to him to ask for my course results as my name was missing on the board and I panicked. A friend of mine said to me, just walk in and ask, he will either say get out or ask you to wait. I followed his advise and walked in. I explained why I  had come and he asked me to leave. I smiled and left but I did not feel bad. I realised as I walked out that he was human just like me. He later put up a newly updated result on the board and I passed but I never got scared of him again after that. That particular act taught me to be bold and determined and to ask for whatever I want. The answer will always be a Yes or a No, but it does not stop me from pushing even when it is a No. 

Let's not allow FEAR to stop us from reaching our goals or dreams. The fear of failure hinders our success. Stay strong and Keep sparkling.✨

 

Monday, 29 October 2018

WALK WITH WISE PEOPLE.

Who do you call your friend? What sort of people do you have around you? Are they those who encourage and lift you up, build you, or those who put you down? Are they supportive? Do not allow such people to stick around for not only do they pull you back, but they will also affect you mentally. You really should not go through stress or frustration because you honestly cannot afford to be stressed. Remember, he that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed(Prov 13:20- KJV).

Stay Sparking and have a fabulous day✨



Thursday, 25 October 2018

ROSELINE TAMBE - MY STORY.


Have you ever felt like you were drained and could not go on anymore? You just wanted time to stop? Well, let's meet a woman of strength as she tells her story and how she is Sparkling through it irrespective of how she feels. She takes each day trusting it will be better and will Sparkle for her.

Meet Roseline, and this is her story.

My name is Roseline, I am originally from Cameroon but resident in London, United Kingdom. I have a BA in Business and Managerial Studies and a Diploma in Counselling though currently, I am a stay at home mum.

It all happened on the 19th of January, 2018 when my phone rang at a few minutes past 5 pm. I picked the call and heard - "Mummy, Kimora has stopped breathing. The ambulance is here, she is been intubated. Can you quickly meet us at the Resuscitation Department, Whipp Cross Cross Hospital?"

My world went blank, I went numb. What could have happened to my daughter I thought as I grabbed my son and booked an uber to the hospital.


ABOUT KIMORA:
Kimora-Lauren was born on the 11th of September 2014 at Croydon University Hospital. She was such a jewel and a ray of sunshine to me but minutes after her birth, she was rushed to St Georges Hospital, Tooting with a distended abdomen. Thus began a journey that lasted eight months, and three weeks juggling through NICU (Neonatal Intensive care Unit), HDU (High Dependency Unit), and SCBU (Special Care Babies Unit). She was eventually diagnosed with GDD (Global Developmental Delay)  but she was picking up and getting better daily. 

Continues story:
I got to the hospital and after an hour or so of crying, I was led to Resus where I saw loads of doctors and nurses trying to resuscitate Kimora. At this point, she looked so lifeless so I went on my knees and kept reciting Psalms 91 and personalising it using her name. About half an hour later, a doctor came to me and says to me- "Mum, we have tried everything in our power plus extra help, but Kimora has now died."At that moment, I felt extra strength come into me and the song "Teach me from my heart to say thy will be done." I could not find words, I was broken. No mother wants to hear such words. No parent wants to bury their child. I cried, I praised, and I worshipped. The Lord gave, and He has taken. Blessed be His name.


Losing a child or a loved one is not something you can overcome. It remains in you daily that "I had" a child who is no more. for us who are in Christ Jesus, we know that death is a triumph and not a tragedy (though it does not make it easy, it gives hope). I believe in eternal life, I believe in heaven, so believe she is in heaven and we will meet again someday to part no more.

I went through a denial period and eventually sank into depression. Though I am a believer I knew I needed support so as I prayed, I also went for counselling and still do.

I keep her memory close. I still look at her pictures, talk about her, and still go to her graveside. The pain and hurt never stop, we never really get over grief I guess, but we learn to cope better each passing day because the world does not stop, everything carries on.

I have an eighteen (18 months) month old son who picks up on my emotion and so, I try not to cry when with him and I pull myself together for his sake.

It is okay to cry. It is okay to feel pain. Do not feel bad about it, just make sure you get counselling. Talk about it. Pray about it. Life is beautiful. Take time to heal. when the days start getting better, go out, do things that would bring a bit of smile or sparkle to you. Do not feel guilty to be happy again.

To anyone grieving right now, I know there are days you feel you can't keep going. Days you can't wait to join the other person so you can hold and kiss them one more time. I know how much you long for that day but please, keep living. Continue to keep them in your heart in all you do. They will always be a part of you.

My name is Roseline Tambe. I am standing tall and Sparkling in Christ Jesus.✨

Tuesday, 23 October 2018

TUESDAY.

It's a pretty cold start to the day, but do not allow that stop you. If you are into business or work from home, do not allow the warmth of your duvet keep you a minute longer in bed. Go for that appointment, carry on with your research, meet-up with people that will encourage and push you. 
Make sure you achieve something today.
Stay Sparkling and do have a calm and beautiful TUESDAY.✨


Photo credit by Ize photography

Thursday, 18 October 2018

GIVE THANKS.



Do all you can to make each day a success for you. Do not beat yourself up if things do not go as you planned. We make big plans for what we intend to do in the following weeks, months, and even our future believing we have planned enough for things to go exactly as we want.

When we make plans, we do not put into consideration if we would wake up the next day or be alive to fulfill those dreams. This is because somehow, we trust and believe that God will keep us alive each day, we rarely ever worry about it, do we?

So, we must not be anxious over any situation or circumstance. We should have the same trust and believe that He (God) will see us through. All we need to do is make our request known to Him and leave the rest for Him to handle.

As you go through today, thank Him for the fact that you are alive and well. If you are not 100% fit, thank Him still as some are in the hospital. No matter what you are going through, always remember that someone else is in a worse position. In all things, give thanks.



#givethanks

Tuesday, 16 October 2018

MAKE IT COUNT.

Days turn into weeks; weeks turn into months and before you know, another year is over. Who have you been meaning to reach out to? Who have you promised to do something for this year?
Remember, procrastination is an awful thing. Right now, even if it is via a phone call or a text, reach out. Let the person(s) know they are being thought of and loved. Do not wait until you receive a phone call saying the person has passed on, then you start to ask yourself why you had not made that call or created the time for a meetup or a getaway.

Each day, we wake up is a blessing we have to use each day to it's fullest. Make the time, make the effort. Don't wait another week. Make that call, take that trip. 

Keep Sparkling as you make today and each day count.

#makeitcount


Friday, 12 October 2018

STRESS AND PTSD BY CHRISTY AMALU JP

This article will be focusing on Stress and some facts you need to know about stress. We will also be looking at Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) which is another type of mental health issue emanating from stress that people rarely talk about and it, in turn, has a huge impact on someone’s mental well-being.
The meaning of stress
Stress is a natural reaction in which forces from the inside or outside world affect an individual, either one's emotional or physical well-being, or both. The individual responds to stress in ways that affect the individual, as well as their environment. Due to the overabundance of stress in our modern lives, we usually think of stress as a negative experience, but stress can be a neutral, negative, or positive experience looking at it from a biological point of view. Generally, stress is related to both external and internal factors. External factors include the physical environment, including one’s job, their relationships with others, their home, and all the situations, challenges, difficulties, and expectations individuals are confronted with on a daily basis. Internal factors determine the body's ability to respond to and deal with, the external stress-inducing factors. Internal factors which influence an individual’s ability to handle stress include their nutritional status, overall health and fitness levels, emotional well-being, and the amount of sleep and rest the individual gets.
Some Facts about Stress.
  • Stress is a normal part of life that can either help us learn and grow or can cause us significant problems.
  • Stress releases powerful neurochemicals and hormones that prepare us for action (to fight or flee).
  • Prolonged, uninterrupted, unexpected, and unmanageable stresses are the most damaging.
  • Stress can be managed by seeking support from loved ones, regular exercise meditation or other relaxation techniques, structured timeouts, and learning new coping strategies to create predictability in our lives.
  • Maladaptive ways of coping with stress are using drugs, pain medications, alcohol, smoking, and unhealthy eating habits; would worsen the stress and can make us more reactive to further stress.
  • Risk factors for unmanageable stress include a lack of adequate social support.
  • While there are promising treatments for stress, the management of stress is mostly dependent on the ability and willingness of a person to make the changes necessary for a healthy lifestyle.


What is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)?

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a condition where people develop a certain set of symptoms following a traumatic event. PTSD can begin immediately after the traumatic event has happened, or it might begin weeks, months or years later. A diagnosis of PTSD is based on someone's thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. It is important to remember that a diagnosis is not a label. It is a tool to help professionals decide what type of treatment and support to offer the individual.


Symptoms of PTSD include:
  • Reliving the traumatic event through flashbacks, intrusive thoughts or nightmares.
  • Constantly feeling on edge and alert, experiencing high anxiety or panic attacks.
  • Avoiding feelings or memories of the event by keeping busy or avoiding talking about the event.
  • Not being able to remember the event, through dissociation or feeling physically or emotionally numb.
Prevalence of PTSD
It is estimated around 4.4% of the population will fit the criteria for a PTSD diagnosis in any week. It is also difficult to know how common PTSD is, as many people describe it in different ways and many will never receive a formal diagnosis.
Some misconceptions about PTSD
Some people hold unhelpful beliefs about what PTSD means, some assume PTSD only affects people who have been involved in a war. However, any traumatic event can cause PTSD; these include neglect and abuse in childhood, accidents, a violent or sexual attack, harassment or bullying and many more. Some of these inaccurate beliefs prevent people from taking their own or other people’s problems seriously and can stop people getting the help they need and may lead to the loss of friends, family relationships, jobs, homes, and even lives.

How does PTSD affect people's lives?
The symptoms of PTSD can be extremely difficult to deal with. They find it hard to maintain relationships, to work or even carry out simple day to day tasks. Some people find it so difficult to cope that they self-harm, turn to alcohol or drugs, or take their own lives. People who experience PTSD will often have to deal with symptoms at varying degrees for the rest of their lives. However, there are treatments and coping strategies which can help people to manage their symptoms and live healthy and fulfilling lives. 
How to help someone with PTSD
  • Learn about PTSD: Study about PTSD. This may help you to understand what your friend or family member is going through and help you to feel more confident in offering support, the Mind and Rethink Mental Illness websites might help you to learn more.
  • Do not be judgemental, be patient: The symptoms of PTSD are very normal human reactions to often tragic events. It may seem like your friend or family member should be 'moving on' by now, but they need time and support to heal. Try not to put pressure on them or make assumptions about how they 'should' be behaving.
  • Ask them how you can help: Everybody is different and there is no one way to help someone experiencing PTSD. If you want to support a friend or loved one, one of the best things to do is ask them how.
  • Give them information about support services: Sometimes the support of friends and family is not enough. Letting them know about the support they can get from the NHS private healthcare or organisations can also be helpful (or any healthcare/organisation where you are based/living). As well as treatment provided by medical professionals, such as psychological therapies and medication, community-based support related to lifestyle, education or social activities can also help someone stay well. 
Christy Amalu JP
Registered Nurse,Registered Midwife and Registered Mental Health Nurse.



Thursday, 11 October 2018

MENTAL HEALTH - STRESS.


We all go through normal day to day pressures and know what that feels like, but when we get or become submerged in our activities and get stressed, this can make problems already existing worse or even become a mental health problem.

WHAT IS STRESS?

The Oxford dictionary defines stress as A state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances. 

What causes stress varies from one person to the next. It could come about due to work overload, health, finances, economy or environmental factors, experiencing something you have little or no control over. When anything triggers off stress in our body, our body tries to fight back and activates our immune system. This usually would help calm the body and hormones. There are times when the stress becomes too great and rather than help the person push through, the pressure instead makes the person feel unable to cope with the situation.

The struggle in life is real. Striving to earn a good living in order to have a happy home, provide for the family. Make our bosses happy and if we work for ourselves, work even harder to make sure we succeed.

Losing a child or loved one is not easy either. Losing your job, losing your mortgage, break-up in a relationship, lack of funds, the list is endless. All of these things make a person stressed.

As I said earlier, we all go through some form of daily stress that we can handle, but when you notice that you are beginning to get irritated or offended easily, feelings of frustration, anger, headaches, palpitations, then you know you are really stressed.

HOW CAN YOU REDUCE STRESS?
  • Firstly, find out what exactly is causing the stress. Once it's known, next step is to work on methods of resolving it. If you don't see changes, please see a doctor.
  • Make sure there is self-love, don't hate or despise yourself but love yourself. 
  • Do all that's possible to have the right support system around you.
  • Eat well, eat healthily and don't forget to exercise.

So, when next someone feeling low or out of sorts crosses our path, let's be nice and friendly. Show care and love. Like I always say, a smile goes a long way. Let's be kind to people anywhere we find ourselves. We can never tell what they are going through at that moment. Stress is real. Mental Health is real

We will be having a guest share more with us tomorrow.
Till then, stay Sparkling ✨, stay calm, relaxed and have fun in everything you do.

#mentalhealthawareness.
#bekind 


Tuesday, 9 October 2018

ARE YOU LEAVING LASTING IMPRESSIONS BEHIND?


Going for an interview, a meeting, a date, or whatever it may be, we always want to be at our best behaviour and want to be seen as almost perfect, which is a natural thing to do of course.
Today I will be focusing briefly on impressions in a relationship.

There are some people who are somewhat deceptive. They portray themselves as the complete opposite of who they truly are and when they get comfortable, show their true selves.

There are others who actually come as they are either positively or negatively. You see them for who they really are after meeting up a few times and you think, ah well, it must just be me feeling something is not right or reading too much meaning into their character or behaviour, or you think this person is simply too good. 

Last night, sitting on my bed sipping on my mug of hot chocolate thinking on how to put this post together. I heard a loud shout and realised it was a female voice and she was crying. From what I could make out, she had just found out her boyfriend was married with kids and she kept asking him, how could you have done this to me. It honestly broke my heart hearing the pain in her voice. She went on to say "all these years I have been faithful to you and waiting for you"... All I could picture in my head at this point was the fact she must have been with him for quite a while and for her to have still been with him up till this moment meant he gave her a good impression from the onset. A lot of times we notice things about a person but tend to turn a blind eye on these things maybe because of love, or because we do not want to rock the boat until something such as what the lady found out happens.

No matter the position you find yourself in a relationship, go into it with genuine and good intentions. Don't cause pain and hurt. The book of Proverbs says that first impressions are the most lasting.

Who do people say you are? If I asked someone about you, what would they have to say about you? Would you be happy with the answers that would be gotten? Can you genuinely say you have left a lasting impression with people you have met? As Sonya Parker says - "Almost everyone will make a good first impression, but only a few will make a good lasting impression".

As you venture into your day and week, stay true, stay honest, keep Sparkling and most of all Be Real.

#staytrue #bereal




Monday, 1 October 2018

OCTOBER- STAY CREATIVE.



Each day is a journey, an adventure. Stay focused, stay creative and be thankful you are alive to participate one more day.

"Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes and having fun" - Mary Lou Cook.

Welcome to the 10th Month of 2018, welcome to October.


#Staycreative #focusonthejourney

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