Meet a strong and amazing woman who has gone through more trials than you can imagine, but when she finally understood and knew who God truly was (and still is), her life turned around. Sit back and enjoy her story.
My name is Deborah and I grew up in a terribly dysfunctional background. My parents were divorced but lived together on and off in various states of chaos and drama. I was the fourth child in a family of six and was the youngest daughter. I was groomed from the beginning to be the personal handmaiden and slave to my mother, my eldest sister (her favourite) and my other sister (my dad's favourite).
In all appearances, we were a normal decent family. But behind closed doors, according to the scriptures-" Where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work" pretty much sums up our household.
My father abused me sexually and abused the entire family emotionally and psychologically. My mother was vague one minute and hysterical the next. She leaned on me and I took on her role in the family- Chief carer. Life in our household was filled with drama.
I met my husband, Christopher in Johannesburg at a shopping centre (I was born and raised in South Africa whilst Christopher who is English lived there for 10years)where we both worked. We got married in England when I was 27years and he was 24years, after 4years of dating. When we met, I was Christian and he was an atheist.
I had my first son Timothy, and Christopher's parents were excited as it was their first grandchild. Things were not right with Timothy from the start. I prayed a lot for him but no changes. He cried a lot and rarely slept. He could not tolerate solids until about 14months. and during that time I was like a breastfeeding machine.
I had to have a repair surgery when Tim turned four as there was damage from his birth. I was told I would not be able to carry another baby to term and advised I had a hysterectomy, which I refused.
During all of this, Christopher my husband lost his jobs (redundancies) and went into depression, which led to a nervous breakdown whenTim was 5 years old. We had lots of financial problems, marital problems and plenty of tears. It was at this point I discovered Stormie Omartian's book (The power of a praying wife/parent) on praying for your husband and children.
Our second son and miracle baby arrived after lots of prayers, tears and two miscarriages. James arrived one month early and he was an answer to Tim's prayer for a brother.
Tim never went to school due to some issues (hyperactive, sensory, communication and learning difficulties). He was later diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome when he turned 10.
James too started to show signs that were troubling- non-verbal, non-cooperative, sleep, sensory and food problems. he was diagnosed with autism when he was 2years old, Christopher and I realised our boys had serious disabilities.
when Tim was 11years old, he was seen by a neuropsychologist in Cambridge who did a 6week long full assessment. She discovered that the autism aspect was just a minor part of his issues. He was diagnosed to have a dysexecutive syndrome and several learning difficulties. We were then advised to see a pediatric psychiatrist at Great Ormond Street Hospital as they suspected Tim had Bi-polar and was a high suicide risk. He needed to be stabilised on medication, which would be a lifelong need.
|Timothy, Christopher and James Mcdermott.|
Christopher got a job which involved him traveling a lot. We were both going through trying times and at this point but we did our best to make things work. I did not exactly have friends or a support system in place.
One day I was really down and turned to a Christian programme on television. It was that programme that changed my life and mindset.
In the summer of 2007, I heard a word from God that my boys would be healed. I was studying the bible more and learning new things about Christ. As time went by, Christopher too became a Christian. We began to believe that God would heal our boys as He had said to me. One day I watched a story of a woman who had a miraculous healing from a life-threatening disease and keyed into this story for my boys.
Christopher and I read books, listened to teachings, went to meetings. At one meeting which we had to travel to, (which was not easy getting the boys to go) we met Pastor Andrew of Andrew Wommack Ministries who prayed for the boys and blessed them. He told us we were now parents of healthy children.
We watched the boys begin to change positively a day at a time and kept on in prayers and believing that they were healed. Once we felt they had received healing, we took them to their psychologists for re-evaluation. Timothy's diagnoses state that Asperger syndrome is no longer applicable. James report states that " it is clear there has been significant progress over time in all areas associated with the triad of impairment with autism. As a result, the label Autism Spectrum Disorder is no longer in the future that relates to him"
|Christopher, Deborah and Timothy Mcdermott.|
Today, I have two healthy boys and they are getting better and better each passing day. I would like to say to those who are going through one problem or the other not to give up hope. The waiting is not easy I know, but you must never settle for anything less than believing you will get what you desire.
Have faith, trust totally in God and believe that He can do it, and He will.
My name is Deborah Mcdermott and I Sparkle in Christ.