Friday, 28 December 2018

HANG IN THERE.

There's a saying that when it rains, it pours. There are some of us who right now feel like the year is ending on a very depressing low. You watch those around you celebrating, sharing and giving gifts, and you wonder why you can't feel that way, why you are not feeling happy. You feel so depressed and angry, your head hurts from worrying and thinking of a way out. You keep wondering why everything seems to have just gotten so messed up. You just cannot see any way the new year would come with a new and better beginning.

I have been there and I know exactly how it feels. I encourage myself by reminding myself what my purpose in life is. Why I decided to embark on my journey, and when I feel so depressed and weighed down, I tell myself I cannot quit now. I know slowly but surely I will get to my goals, dreams, and be truly happy. For better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit (Ecclesiastes 7:8).  

Learn to be patient when you are angry, when you feel so frustrated and think life has been too unfair and unkind to you. I know it is easy to say and advice when one is not going through such frustration, but I am writing from my own experience. Anger makes things worse as we get blinded by our emotions and how we feel, do not make decisions when you are angry. Be not hasty in the spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9)

No matter what it is you are facing right now, please just stay strong, hang in there. Take things a day at a time and trust that you will reach your dreams eventually. As the year rolls to an end, do your best to hold on to the happy moments. You are alive, you are breathing without tubes, you are walking without any aid, you don't need any equipment for your heart to function, your kidneys are okay and you can go to the toilet normally. The list is endless.
Be thankful, stay strong and above all, love yourself.

Remember, Winners, don't quit. stay sparkling and keep believing in yourself.


#faith #keepbelieving #isparkle #keepsparkling #depression #mentalhealthawareness #positivity #love #journey #newbeginning #blogger #sisialero #behappy

Monday, 24 December 2018

SEASONS GREETINGS!

Hello everyone.
Another Christmas is here again. We have so much to be thankful for - life, health, family and loved ones amongst other things. 

As we celebrate this period, let us also not forget the main reason for this festive season- the birth of Jesus Christ. IMMANUEL- The Son of the Living God.

Let us not just remember only our family and friends when giving out gifts, but also remember those who have nothing at this time. It could be paying for their gas and electric so they can keep warm, or sharing your turkey and festive meals with someone who cannot afford a meal. Nothing is too small to share with one who has none. 

Show love, show you care and put a smile on a face this season. 

Here's wishing you a very happy and splendid Christmas with love from Sisi Alero. 
Make sure you Sparkle through the remaining days left in 2018.

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!


Friday, 14 December 2018

BEAUTIFUL IMPERFECTION 2

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that there are pictures that you may find disturbing.

Last week we read the story of a beautiful lady, Jynnie who was mauled by five of her grandmother's bull mastiff dogs(to read Part one follow the link - https://www.isparklenow.com/2018/12/beautiful-imperfection.html). Today, we conclude on her amazing and touching story. Remember, this is a true story and not made up. We must never give up no matter how many times we are pulled down. Enjoy as you read. 



JYNNIE'S STORY: I mentioned that I was mauled by my grandmothers' dogs. What you do not know is that after I was attacked, my grandmother asked me and my sister to lie to the hospital and police that there had been only two dogs and I was breaking up a fight. She appeared to be more worried about what would happen to her dogs than her granddaughter. After my attack, the dogs were quarantined and ordered to be put down. My grandmother sued me to court for the loss of her dogs.


After an eight-year-long trial, my grandmother lost the case and was to pay me the sum of $184,000(One hundred and eighty-four thousand dollars), rather than pay me, she claimed bankruptcy and moved out of the country. Though I may not have received any money, I am thankful and grateful to be alive as there are no price tags on a person's life.


After going into depression, and turning to drugs to ease the pain I was going through, I decided to come out from hiding. I began to motivate and encourage myself. I  really wanted to wear a pair of shorts, a skirt or even a bikini. I just wanted to be able to feel pretty and comfortable in my own skin. One day, I woke up and got dressed for school. My mum saw me and marveled as I had on a pair of shorts. She asked me if I was sure I was ready, and I replied with a strong 'YES' and left for school. Ever since the day I made that decision, I have felt confident in my own skin. I feel beautiful to worry about what anyone thinks about me or my scars. I was finally at peace with my scars and nothing could take that from me. I got off the drugs and started to live a healthy life.



If you are reading this, and you are someone with a hidden scar, stop hiding. I want you to know that your scars are beautiful, they show the strength of a fighter. Everything happens for a reason and God chose this as your path to show the world your courage.




A few years ago while on vacation, I was in a bikini by the poolside chatting to some ladies. one of the ladies happened to have noticed my scar and said: "oh my God, what happened to you?" I then told them my story and made them know I was comfortable and confident with it. I let them know I did not need pity and I do not allow negative talks get me down. After I finished talking, one of the ladies came to me, she had on a big-long t-shirt and pants as her swimming costume in the hot sun. She told me she was ashamed of her body because she had stretch marks and cellulite. She had always hidden her body and would not wear shorts, dresses or bikinis. She was inspired by my story and the following day came to the poolside in a bikini and borrowed a pair of shorts from one of her girlfriends. She went out dancing that night in the borrowed shorts with her friends.  She had taken her first step of breaking out of hiding. Please, know that no matter the type of scar you have, seen or unseen, you do not need to hide behind it. Love who you are the way you are. When you love yourself, then others can love you too.


WHAT I DO FOR FUN: I love the outdoor life. From the age of seven (7), my dad taught me how to dirt bike and so, every summer when I get the chance, I go dirt biking. I also love to go boating, swimming, fishing and just relaxing around the fire with family and friends. I also love to go to karaoke and sing for fun. 


Though I got mauled by dogs, it did not stop me from loving animals. I have three dogs- A labrador, a red-nosed pit bull and a chihuahua. I love spending time with my wonderful fiance, and gorgeous stepson. We do a lot of activities together. I listen to meditation in my free time and focus on being mindful.




WORK: At the moment, I do personal training and I  actually did a fitness show called My Best Self. In the winter time, I do snow removal and in the summertime I do landscaping. I am writing a book about my life, I plan to make a difference in the world with my story.


MY FAITH: I am a woman of faith and I believe in God. My family was not the church type, but my sister and I used to go to church with a family down the street, it was always a wonderful experience. It is God who saw me through all I have been through and is with me even now. I called out for God to save me during the attack. I would not have survived the attack if not for God, 

My name is Jynnie Ashley Kent, and this is my Sparkling story.
Social Media: Instagram -@ jynuhysahrkogirl

                            Twitter -@ Jynniek

Friday, 7 December 2018

BEAUTIFUL IMPERFECTION.

A lot of times we hear stories and wonder in amusement if the stories are true as they sometimes sound so unbelievable. Meet a young lady whose story sounds like fiction but sadly, is real. I read her story on @miraclesandmesses and just had to reach out to her to come share her story with the world.

CONTENT WARNING: Please note that there are pictures that you may find disturbing.

My name is Jynnie, I am 26 years old born 26th of October 1992. I am the youngest of four siblings. 
While growing up, I lived in Pickering, Ontario. My street was called Tatra Dr. My childhood was not a regular one growing up. My parents were drug addicts. There was also violence and abuse in the home. 

I suffered sexual abuse which at the time, my parents knew nothing of. I was from a poor home, we could not afford nice clothes and due to this, I suffered bullying in school as I looked dirty and also was not up to date with the styles trending. On several occasions, I was beaten up by kids from school. I was once stabbed on my throat with a pencil, to show how much I was disliked. Even though I endured a lot of pain as a child, I always held my head high and had a positive view of every situation. Though I have a few friends, the ones I made as a child are still my best friends till date.

On October 26th, 2003, I was viciously mauled by five of my grandmothers bull mastiff dogs, leaving my entire body scared. When my grandfather realised what was happening to me in the backyard, he came to my rescue. At the point he came to help me, I was on the verge of giving up. In the process of the attack, the dogs had ripped off most of my clothing (I had winter clothing on). It had rained so the ground was muddy. I was covered in blood and mud, so, when we arrived at Uxbridge hospital and was placed on a stretcher, the nurse kept asking if I was a burn victim as I looked completely black. The Uxbridge hospital did all they could on me before flying me to Sick Kids hospital in Toronto, Ontario.

 I suffered 13 tears all over my body, had over 150 puncture wounds, about 1,000 stitches inside and outside of my body. I had a skin graphing repair on my lower right leg, suffered severe blood loss and was hospitalised for three months. On the first night at the Sick Kids hospital, the doctors found that the dogs had torn the main artery in my right leg and that there was no pulse. The doctors decided that they would amputate my right leg to the hip but later decided to call in a vascular surgeon by the name of Dr. Rubin who came in and took over the procedure. After ten hours of intensive surgery, he was able to find a vein in my left leg and used it to repair the artery in my right leg after which he got a pulse. Thanks to Dr. Rubin, he saved my leg.
I had intensive physiotherapy and rehabilitation, I learned to walk again. I still have to see my vascular surgeon (Dr. Rubin) every six months (for the rest of my life) due to the artery in my right leg. I have to be careful with certain activities as I am at risk of an artery collapsing in my right leg which would then lead to the leg being amputated to the hip.

I am very grateful to be alive. As a teenager, I hid my scars from everyone. I had social anxiety and battled with low self-esteem. I believed no one would ever love me because of my scars. I suffered bullying because of these scars, some kids in high school called me a 'dog chew toy'. Some even go as far as saying the dogs should have just killed me.


Depressed and not knowing where to fit in, I turned to drugs to ease the pain. Eventually, I got tired of hiding behind long clothes and self-harming. I no longer wanted to hide behind the walls I had built around me.

  My name is Jynnie Ashley Kent and I am Sparkling through and through✨
Social Media: Instagram -@ jynuhysahrkogirl 
                            Twitter -@ Jynniek


Join us next week to read the rest of her story, until then stay Sparkling and keep smiling.


Saturday, 1 December 2018

DECEMBER.

December is finally here, 2018 is quickly coming to an end. It definitely has been a rollercoaster year for me since the month of March. The road has been rough and crazy but, still, I stand. I have so much to be grateful for, and I thank my God and heavenly Father for each day I wake up. Every part of me still functions and I am able to do anything I want. Isn't it just awesome to be able to take in a breath of fresh air without having an oxygen mask on?

Yes, there are probably loads of tasks and deadlines we have to complete or meet but, do not allow that stop you from living or being thankful and happy. Enjoy every minute you have, enjoy every moment of every day while you have still got breath in you. 

Make this month count by making beautiful memories for yourself. Stay happy and keep Sparkling✨

Welcome to DECEMBER, welcome to the month of Glad Tidings.πŸ””πŸŽ„




Wednesday, 28 November 2018

FAITH WEDNESDAY.


No matter what the situation is or how bad you are pushed, learn to control your temper. Some people when angry or provoked, will let out secrets because they want to get even or say very horrible things about the person they are upset with.
 When they are calm, they feel terrible and want to apologise for all the wrong things they have said. A lot of times, saying sorry does not fix it. Why not just learn to speak softly. Better still, smile and walk away if you know you will be unable to stay calm. The tongue can stir up hate or love. Which will you choose?



Thursday, 22 November 2018

STORMS PASS.



Have you ever felt like you are drowning in all that you are going through and think this time around I doubt I will make it out? I understand that feeling totally. I went to bed last night feeling that way. A million and one things happening in one day and I thought to myself, 'It's enough now. I don't want to fight or struggle anymore'. 

Sleep at first was nowhere near, and I tried to pray but could not. I did the only thing I could. I sang, I hummed and sang and just worshipped Jehovah. 
In my process of worship, I wept as I began to recall the times He had seen me past things I thought would have drowned me. From my health issues to being kidnapped, been hit by a car that threw me in the air, to times I have had a gun to my head (not once, not twice), yet in all of these, I came out whole. Why then am I allowing the sound of thunderclaps scare me and worry me? I felt better, Thanked my God and Father for His love and mercies, and to help me through this storm after which, I went to sleep like a baby. 

I do not know what you are going through right now, or what you may be facing. It may seem overwhelming and that there may be no hope. Trust me, there is always hope. Like I always say, scream, shout, get the frustration and anger out but, never let go. Never stop believing and trusting. 
This storm too shall pass.


#storms #mentalhealth #quotes #isparkle #blogger

Tuesday, 20 November 2018

HAPPINESS..

Recently, I read somewhere that if you want to be happy, never ever have children. This made me laugh. Yes, there are people who feel overwhelmed after having children and some find it really difficult coping (which is no fault of theirs), but this does not mean everyone will go through the same process if they decide to have children.

For me personally, I love children and want to always be around them. I love the way they smell, their laughter, their happy and sad times. I love to sing and play with them. I mean, the thought of a child makes me smile. I definitely will be totally delirious when I do have a child, that's for sure.

What are the things that bring out the best in you? What gets you to that euphoric state? When was the last time you felt satisfaction, good cheer? If you cannot remember, then you have some work to do on yourself. Happiness brings with it excitement and merriment. Your happiness is important and should come first in all you do. This is because when you are happy, it enhances you in achieving your desired dreams and visions, it makes you more productive. You can also pass your positive vibe/ emotion to the next person. 

Start your day being happy. Smile, encourage yourself. I am in a bit of pain as I type this but, I am thinking happy thoughts, staying positive and spreading happiness to those around me and getting same back from them. Put away whatever or whoever may have upset or offended you, don't dwell on such things rather have positive thoughts and stay focused.


Stay Sparkling and be Happy. #happiness #wellbeing #blogger #love

Friday, 16 November 2018

RELAX

We sometimes work and work and hardly ever have the time to relax and simply enjoy ourselves. It's either we are too tired after all the work, or too busy to create time to just relax.
Work hard, in fact, work very hard but, please always create time for rest, for relaxation or a little bit of pampering. Show love to yourself. Give your body, mind, and soul a treat this weekend.
Stay Sparkling and enjoy the weekend.✨

Thursday, 15 November 2018

FOCUS.


"Life is not fair"- This is a term a lot of us use when things do not go as planned. We grow up with so many plans and the path we would like to take to attain success but alas, years later we look back and see we are far off course from those plans and also on a totally different path.

Agreed, life really is not fair to a lot of us but, we must learn to use what we have and where we find ourselves work for us and attain our dreams/visions. 
If like me, you have ever dreamt of owning your own properties (or whatever dreams you had for yourself), and you feel where you are at the moment is no way close to you achieving those dreams, know that it does not mean you can't achieve them. Listen, I tell myself that I may never own an estate of my own like I dreamt but, I will definitely own properties, I refuse to allow my dreams and plans to die. You too must not let your dreams die.

Whatever your dream/ vision may be, focus on it and plan towards it. Rome, as they say, was not built in a day. Well, nothing great happens in a day. Do not look at other people who are successful in areas of your dream and think "I can't be like them, I am not good enough". They too have a story, they also went through their journey before arriving at where you find them now. Do not envy anyone but rather, admire. Tell yourself one day, you too will be admired by someone else. This though can only be achieved through hard work and dedication.


WORKING TOWARDS MAKING YOUR DREAM YOUR REALITY:
  • Create a dream/vision board for yourself and place it where it will be visible.
  • Write your dreams/visions in stages so that they are not difficult to attain/ achieve (you could break them into monthly or quarterly stages so you have a target to meet).
  • Have a look at it daily and absorb it, let it speak to you and inspire you. 
  • Touch each vision/plan and picture yourself there.
  • Remind yourself why you have to carry on whenever you feel like you want to give up. ( this happens with me, especially when I feel weighed down).
  •  Encourage yourself by reading your daily affirmations.
Are you ready and willing to turn your dreams/visions into your reality?πŸ˜•
Stay focused and stay Sparkling.✨

Tuesday, 13 November 2018

DEPRESSION AND MENSTRUAL PAIN - WITH ALERO.


Did you know that there are women going through depression due to their menstrual cycle? They go through so much each month and sometimes cannot find a way to explain how they feel because not everyone who has a period, has pain or would collapse/pass out due to being anaemic from their periods.

As a woman, our body goes through a monthly process called Menstruation. This is when the body sheds the lining of the uterus (womb). Menstrual blood flows from the uterus through the small opening in the cervix and passes out through the vagina. 

For some women, this process comes without any discomfort; while for some it is their worst nightmare. I happen to fall into the latter category. The pain, stress, and discomfort that comes with it for me caused me to miss classes while in University; miss work, or when I do go to work, I am barely able to function as I would be in so much pain. I would cry, bend over, throw up and generally be very ill.

My medication has been changed on a regular basis just so that I can function better but it rarely has any long-term effect as I soon begin to feel the pain after a while.

I have listened to people say, people with painful periods are attention seekers, or just being lazy. It always makes me so angry when I hear such statement because I doubt anyone would want to go through such pain for days, I certainly can do without it. Almost every other month, I got admitted into the hospital and a few times needed blood as I lose a lot each month, and due to the heavy blood loss, I am anaemic (I will do a full story on me soon).

Due to the stress and pain, a person goes through regularly from menstrual pain, they most times get agitated/anxious just as the time for the next period approaches. This is called or known as PreMenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). This is a condition whereby a woman becomes tensed up and anxious, gets irritated at and with anything and has severe depression symptoms before menstruation even begins. 

Alero Omatsola.

For years, I went through this process as I would dread how my period would disrupt my life for a week or sometimes, two weeks as the pain begins days before the period would even start and I would have an after pain session after the cycle ended. For me, it was a nightmare. I barely sleep, and I sit up through the cycle. This leaves me feeling drained and very tired. I often tried to prepare for it, taking painkillers before it began which never really stopped the pain but made it a bit tolerable. I am miserable and irritable most times, and as soon as my period begins, I would start taking my mefenamic acid, tranexamic acid, and norethisterone, which honestly did not do much but eased the pain just a bit which was better than nothing. Presently, I am on Naproxen and codeine/paracetamol. Oh and I always have my hot water bottle.

Signs Of PMDD :
a) Problems sleeping.
b) Fatigue.
c) Mood swings.
d) Lack of concentration.
e) Change in appetite.
f) feeling hopeless / depressed / sad.
e) Suicidal thoughts due to extreme pain and frustration.
g)Anxiety.
h) Lack of interest in daily activities.


Ways to help control PMDD :
a) Exercises
b) Eat healthy- fruits, vegetables, avoid sugar/ sweet things, and caffeine.
c) Medications -Antidepressants - if and when needed, painkillers such as naproxen, ibuprofen, aspirin (to name a few) - to help with back pain, headaches, menstrual cramps.
d) Find a way to take your mind off the pain and calculating the next period- I know this is hard, but once you can, you find yourself feeling more relaxed and less anxious.

If you find that you have any of the signs above, or find that you feel anxious, depressed as your period comes round, then please see a doctor. Speak to someone who can help you. You may not have to take antidepressants as I know some people get scared just thinking they would have to take that. I am not on any antidepressants. I got tired of taking so much medication (I usually joke about having a mini pharmacy by my bedside), I told myself that I would not allow the pain control my life any longer. Since then, I have been learning not to time myself or look forward to when the pain would come. My change in medication recently has also helped and I read more about my condition and learn more from doctors at every given opportunity.

Do you know anyone going through this or any menstrual condition? Encourage them to see a doctor, find out exactly what it is that is wrong and what treatment they can get. 
You can also share your thoughts about what you think or write to me - admin@isparklenow.com

No matter what you are going through, keep your Sparkle on and stay Sparkling.

Alero Omatsola.

                                               I am Sisi Alero and I Sparkle✨






Tuesday, 6 November 2018

TUESDAY INSPIRATIONS -Rudy Francisco - Count Your Blessings





No matter where you are, or where you find yourself; never ever forget to count your blessings.
Remember to smile and to leave a smile on someone's face today.
Good Morning and have a fabulous day ahead.
Stay Sparling. - Sisi Alero

Monday, 5 November 2018

MONDAY MOTIVATION.

Good Morning and welcome to another super amazing week. I trust that you had a splendid weekend and enough time to relax? As you begin a new week, I pray that you go into it with new ideas, wisdom, and understanding.

Do not ignore the amazing ideas you are inspired with, get an idea notepad and write down your ideas. Never ever think your dreams/ideas are too big or impossible. Keep working hard and believe in your dreams/ideas, they do come true.

Do have a very beautiful day and do not forget to put a smile on someone's face today.
Keep your head up and stay Sparkling.✨

#dreams


Thursday, 1 November 2018

ENCOURAGING HER.


Olayinka is a wife, and mother of two wonderful girls. She is an entrepreneur, trainer, and coach who is passionate about intentional parenting. She is the secretary and faculty member at Domint Institute, a ministry that trains believers with biblical principles that will equip them for their purpose in life.

She is the founder of Believers Mamas Hub whose mission is to see children blossom in the glory of God through emphasising on the significant role of a believing mother. When she is not working, she loves to spend time with her family, going out and reading.


Olayinka founded Believers Mamas Hub challenge, and the purpose of this challenge is to emphasise the importance of encouraging one another as she has seen lots of women not being supportive of each other, but rather compete against one another. 
As women, we need to show love to single mothers, especially young mothers(teenagers).

A lot of times, we hear the familiar voices of women who talk negatively about single mothers and teenage mothers. As women, we should be caring, supportive, be there for one another, however, this is not usually the case. We see women competing with one another and bringing one another down. 

You need to realise that single parents (mothers especially) are already going through a very tough time, passing insults and name calling will definitely not help or change the situation. Remember, no one prays to be in such a situation, but when it happens, they just have to make the best out of it.

Believers Mamas Hub is, therefore, running a challenge which begins to and runs through to the end of November. Encouraging Her. Encourage a mother in whatever way you can; in cash or materially, whatever you can afford will be appreciated.

To follow up, you can follow Olayinka on Facebook and on Instagram: @believersmamashub using the hashtag - #bmhencourageher


              This is Olayinka Thomas and I Sparkle as I encourage other women.

NOVEMBER!


Welcome to the eleventh month of the year 2018. It's NOVEMBER peopleπŸ’ƒπŸ•Ί
I am grateful to be alive to see this brand new day that I am certain will be loaded with amazing benefits, I hope you are as excited as I amπŸ’ƒ.

There may be some going through very rough times. I know some have lost a loved one at this time, for some, a baby has just arrived; know that no matter what you are going through (if it's rough or bad), it is a phase that will pass soon enough. Be grateful to be alive and that you have another chance to make things better. There are sixty (60) days left before the year comes to an end, let's make the most of what is left. go into each day, hopeful and grateful.


Here's to a month loaded with harvest for all our hard work.
Stay Sparkling and go reap your harvest.



Tuesday, 30 October 2018

WHY ARE YOU HOLDING BACK?


We all have that one thing we would really like to do but keep holding back. Holding back because we do not want to fail, or get defeated, or hear the NO reply

What we need to realise is that if we keep holding back, we will never know if we would pass, be victorious or get the YES reply.

Back in my Diploma days whilst studying Accounting; We had a lecturer everyone was scared of. I needed to go to him to ask for my course results as my name was missing on the board and I panicked. A friend of mine said to me, just walk in and ask, he will either say get out or ask you to wait. I followed his advise and walked in. I explained why I  had come and he asked me to leave. I smiled and left but I did not feel bad. I realised as I walked out that he was human just like me. He later put up a newly updated result on the board and I passed but I never got scared of him again after that. That particular act taught me to be bold and determined and to ask for whatever I want. The answer will always be a Yes or a No, but it does not stop me from pushing even when it is a No. 

Let's not allow FEAR to stop us from reaching our goals or dreams. The fear of failure hinders our success. Stay strong and Keep sparkling.✨

 

Monday, 29 October 2018

WALK WITH WISE PEOPLE.

Who do you call your friend? What sort of people do you have around you? Are they those who encourage and lift you up, build you, or those who put you down? Are they supportive? Do not allow such people to stick around for not only do they pull you back, but they will also affect you mentally. You really should not go through stress or frustration because you honestly cannot afford to be stressed. Remember, he that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed(Prov 13:20- KJV).

Stay Sparking and have a fabulous day✨



Thursday, 25 October 2018

ROSELINE TAMBE - MY STORY.


Have you ever felt like you were drained and could not go on anymore? You just wanted time to stop? Well, let's meet a woman of strength as she tells her story and how she is Sparkling through it irrespective of how she feels. She takes each day trusting it will be better and will Sparkle for her.

Meet Roseline, and this is her story.

My name is Roseline, I am originally from Cameroon but resident in London, United Kingdom. I have a BA in Business and Managerial Studies and a Diploma in Counselling though currently, I am a stay at home mum.

It all happened on the 19th of January, 2018 when my phone rang at a few minutes past 5 pm. I picked the call and heard - "Mummy, Kimora has stopped breathing. The ambulance is here, she is been intubated. Can you quickly meet us at the Resuscitation Department, Whipp Cross Cross Hospital?"

My world went blank, I went numb. What could have happened to my daughter I thought as I grabbed my son and booked an uber to the hospital.


ABOUT KIMORA:
Kimora-Lauren was born on the 11th of September 2014 at Croydon University Hospital. She was such a jewel and a ray of sunshine to me but minutes after her birth, she was rushed to St Georges Hospital, Tooting with a distended abdomen. Thus began a journey that lasted eight months, and three weeks juggling through NICU (Neonatal Intensive care Unit), HDU (High Dependency Unit), and SCBU (Special Care Babies Unit). She was eventually diagnosed with GDD (Global Developmental Delay)  but she was picking up and getting better daily. 

Continues story:
I got to the hospital and after an hour or so of crying, I was led to Resus where I saw loads of doctors and nurses trying to resuscitate Kimora. At this point, she looked so lifeless so I went on my knees and kept reciting Psalms 91 and personalising it using her name. About half an hour later, a doctor came to me and says to me- "Mum, we have tried everything in our power plus extra help, but Kimora has now died."At that moment, I felt extra strength come into me and the song "Teach me from my heart to say thy will be done." I could not find words, I was broken. No mother wants to hear such words. No parent wants to bury their child. I cried, I praised, and I worshipped. The Lord gave, and He has taken. Blessed be His name.


Losing a child or a loved one is not something you can overcome. It remains in you daily that "I had" a child who is no more. for us who are in Christ Jesus, we know that death is a triumph and not a tragedy (though it does not make it easy, it gives hope). I believe in eternal life, I believe in heaven, so believe she is in heaven and we will meet again someday to part no more.

I went through a denial period and eventually sank into depression. Though I am a believer I knew I needed support so as I prayed, I also went for counselling and still do.

I keep her memory close. I still look at her pictures, talk about her, and still go to her graveside. The pain and hurt never stop, we never really get over grief I guess, but we learn to cope better each passing day because the world does not stop, everything carries on.

I have an eighteen (18 months) month old son who picks up on my emotion and so, I try not to cry when with him and I pull myself together for his sake.

It is okay to cry. It is okay to feel pain. Do not feel bad about it, just make sure you get counselling. Talk about it. Pray about it. Life is beautiful. Take time to heal. when the days start getting better, go out, do things that would bring a bit of smile or sparkle to you. Do not feel guilty to be happy again.

To anyone grieving right now, I know there are days you feel you can't keep going. Days you can't wait to join the other person so you can hold and kiss them one more time. I know how much you long for that day but please, keep living. Continue to keep them in your heart in all you do. They will always be a part of you.

My name is Roseline Tambe. I am standing tall and Sparkling in Christ Jesus.✨

Tuesday, 23 October 2018

TUESDAY.

It's a pretty cold start to the day, but do not allow that stop you. If you are into business or work from home, do not allow the warmth of your duvet keep you a minute longer in bed. Go for that appointment, carry on with your research, meet-up with people that will encourage and push you. 
Make sure you achieve something today.
Stay Sparkling and do have a calm and beautiful TUESDAY.✨


Photo credit by Ize photography

Thursday, 18 October 2018

GIVE THANKS.



Do all you can to make each day a success for you. Do not beat yourself up if things do not go as you planned. We make big plans for what we intend to do in the following weeks, months, and even our future believing we have planned enough for things to go exactly as we want.

When we make plans, we do not put into consideration if we would wake up the next day or be alive to fulfill those dreams. This is because somehow, we trust and believe that God will keep us alive each day, we rarely ever worry about it, do we?

So, we must not be anxious over any situation or circumstance. We should have the same trust and believe that He (God) will see us through. All we need to do is make our request known to Him and leave the rest for Him to handle.

As you go through today, thank Him for the fact that you are alive and well. If you are not 100% fit, thank Him still as some are in the hospital. No matter what you are going through, always remember that someone else is in a worse position. In all things, give thanks.



#givethanks

Tuesday, 16 October 2018

MAKE IT COUNT.

Days turn into weeks; weeks turn into months and before you know, another year is over. Who have you been meaning to reach out to? Who have you promised to do something for this year?
Remember, procrastination is an awful thing. Right now, even if it is via a phone call or a text, reach out. Let the person(s) know they are being thought of and loved. Do not wait until you receive a phone call saying the person has passed on, then you start to ask yourself why you had not made that call or created the time for a meetup or a getaway.

Each day, we wake up is a blessing we have to use each day to it's fullest. Make the time, make the effort. Don't wait another week. Make that call, take that trip. 

Keep Sparkling as you make today and each day count.

#makeitcount


Friday, 12 October 2018

STRESS AND PTSD BY CHRISTY AMALU JP

This article will be focusing on Stress and some facts you need to know about stress. We will also be looking at Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) which is another type of mental health issue emanating from stress that people rarely talk about and it, in turn, has a huge impact on someone’s mental well-being.
The meaning of stress
Stress is a natural reaction in which forces from the inside or outside world affect an individual, either one's emotional or physical well-being, or both. The individual responds to stress in ways that affect the individual, as well as their environment. Due to the overabundance of stress in our modern lives, we usually think of stress as a negative experience, but stress can be a neutral, negative, or positive experience looking at it from a biological point of view. Generally, stress is related to both external and internal factors. External factors include the physical environment, including one’s job, their relationships with others, their home, and all the situations, challenges, difficulties, and expectations individuals are confronted with on a daily basis. Internal factors determine the body's ability to respond to and deal with, the external stress-inducing factors. Internal factors which influence an individual’s ability to handle stress include their nutritional status, overall health and fitness levels, emotional well-being, and the amount of sleep and rest the individual gets.
Some Facts about Stress.
  • Stress is a normal part of life that can either help us learn and grow or can cause us significant problems.
  • Stress releases powerful neurochemicals and hormones that prepare us for action (to fight or flee).
  • Prolonged, uninterrupted, unexpected, and unmanageable stresses are the most damaging.
  • Stress can be managed by seeking support from loved ones, regular exercise meditation or other relaxation techniques, structured timeouts, and learning new coping strategies to create predictability in our lives.
  • Maladaptive ways of coping with stress are using drugs, pain medications, alcohol, smoking, and unhealthy eating habits; would worsen the stress and can make us more reactive to further stress.
  • Risk factors for unmanageable stress include a lack of adequate social support.
  • While there are promising treatments for stress, the management of stress is mostly dependent on the ability and willingness of a person to make the changes necessary for a healthy lifestyle.


What is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)?

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a condition where people develop a certain set of symptoms following a traumatic event. PTSD can begin immediately after the traumatic event has happened, or it might begin weeks, months or years later. A diagnosis of PTSD is based on someone's thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. It is important to remember that a diagnosis is not a label. It is a tool to help professionals decide what type of treatment and support to offer the individual.


Symptoms of PTSD include:
  • Reliving the traumatic event through flashbacks, intrusive thoughts or nightmares.
  • Constantly feeling on edge and alert, experiencing high anxiety or panic attacks.
  • Avoiding feelings or memories of the event by keeping busy or avoiding talking about the event.
  • Not being able to remember the event, through dissociation or feeling physically or emotionally numb.
Prevalence of PTSD
It is estimated around 4.4% of the population will fit the criteria for a PTSD diagnosis in any week. It is also difficult to know how common PTSD is, as many people describe it in different ways and many will never receive a formal diagnosis.
Some misconceptions about PTSD
Some people hold unhelpful beliefs about what PTSD means, some assume PTSD only affects people who have been involved in a war. However, any traumatic event can cause PTSD; these include neglect and abuse in childhood, accidents, a violent or sexual attack, harassment or bullying and many more. Some of these inaccurate beliefs prevent people from taking their own or other people’s problems seriously and can stop people getting the help they need and may lead to the loss of friends, family relationships, jobs, homes, and even lives.

How does PTSD affect people's lives?
The symptoms of PTSD can be extremely difficult to deal with. They find it hard to maintain relationships, to work or even carry out simple day to day tasks. Some people find it so difficult to cope that they self-harm, turn to alcohol or drugs, or take their own lives. People who experience PTSD will often have to deal with symptoms at varying degrees for the rest of their lives. However, there are treatments and coping strategies which can help people to manage their symptoms and live healthy and fulfilling lives. 
How to help someone with PTSD
  • Learn about PTSD: Study about PTSD. This may help you to understand what your friend or family member is going through and help you to feel more confident in offering support, the Mind and Rethink Mental Illness websites might help you to learn more.
  • Do not be judgemental, be patient: The symptoms of PTSD are very normal human reactions to often tragic events. It may seem like your friend or family member should be 'moving on' by now, but they need time and support to heal. Try not to put pressure on them or make assumptions about how they 'should' be behaving.
  • Ask them how you can help: Everybody is different and there is no one way to help someone experiencing PTSD. If you want to support a friend or loved one, one of the best things to do is ask them how.
  • Give them information about support services: Sometimes the support of friends and family is not enough. Letting them know about the support they can get from the NHS private healthcare or organisations can also be helpful (or any healthcare/organisation where you are based/living). As well as treatment provided by medical professionals, such as psychological therapies and medication, community-based support related to lifestyle, education or social activities can also help someone stay well. 
Christy Amalu JP
Registered Nurse,Registered Midwife and Registered Mental Health Nurse.



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