Thursday, 28 December 2017
It was not easy and it has been difficult getting our African families to come out to tell their stories on how they live with one disability or another.
For the amazing ones who shared their lives and stories with us; and also those who inspired us with their hard work and achievements, i say a big THANK YOU.
Sisi Alero loves you all so much.
Looking forward to a New Year filled with so many dreams and visions.
It is going to be an awesome 2018.
Be thankful for life and keep your hopes up.
It does not matter if others you know have gone past you or if you have failed a few times.
As Dr Edwin Land said- 'An essential part of creativity is, not being afraid to fail'
Failure does not mean it's the end. Keep pushing, don't give up.
Let us go into the New Year with hopes, dreams, great visions. Believing in ourselves and what we intend to achieve.
I have had a few people mock me and try to make me feel bad in regards to my blog. Rather than feel bad, i cut myself off from them.
Take note: You do not need any negative person/s around you. You do not need anyone who puts you down. Rather, move with those who encourage and inspire you. People who have your best interest at heart. Positive minded people.
2018 will certainly come with loads of transformations for me. I am already celebrating.
Join me, let's make this New Year the best one ever.
Saturday, 23 December 2017
As the year comes to an end and we prepare to celebrate Christmas in 2days, let us remember to show love to all around us.
Do something you have never done for someone this Christmas. It could be for one child, one man, one woman or a family.
Sisi Alero is wishing you a very Merry Christmas and an Amazing New Year in Advance.
Remember, Jesus is the Reason for the Season.
Tuesday, 19 December 2017
Happiness can be said to be a state of high spirits, jubilation, a place of contentment.
My friend Elizabeth asked me to write on happiness a while ago, i started to write but couldn't think of what to say because of how i felt mentally and emotionally at that point. I just couldn't reach my happy place.But today i feel i can say i feel good enough to write on it.
What really defines happiness? For some, it's being married, having kids, having loads of money, being popular.
As human beings, we tend to strive to achieve goals, desires, our dreams. A happy life is seen as one that's meaningful. A life filled with something to show who we think or feel we are. Almost like a competition with those around us.
But, do these material things define happiness? Will having lots of money bring true happiness?
Growing up, i pictured myself having an awesome job with fantastic pay, a gorgeous family with my twin boys. Living "the life". Years and years later, I am nowhere near those dreams. But today, i have come to realise that all of those dreams would not guarantee my happiness but rather, are things i achieve on my road to happiness.
Now, i have come to understand that the most important thing in my life right now is my health (now that is a story for another day).
I am learning to love me for me and take things easy. Take life a day at a time.
Today, if i am asked to define happiness. I would say happiness is me being at peace with myself.
Whatever decisions i make, i make for me and not just to please people around me.
If you want to find true happiness, put yourself first. Be at peace in your heart in all you do.
Do not try to please people around you and end up displeasing yourself.
As the year rolls to an end, do all you can to be at peace with yourself.
Relax, take life easy. forgive those who have hurt you. Smile.
Most importantly, stay Sparkling no matter what.
Tuesday, 5 December 2017
So far, I haven't been able to solve anything from my worrying.
Friday, 1 December 2017
With a year left to finish my course, I began to write the story of my failed marriage. This was to heal the pain I felt on the inside, but when the story was finished, I had two options before me. I could hand it over to an established magazine, or I could begin a magazine of my own. I chose the latter, and that led to the birth of DOZ (Daughters of Zion) Magazine. For close to a year DOZ Magazine made an impact, but I shut down the operations at the end of 2009 because of numerous challenges at the time which overwhelmed me. I thought DOZ was over, but when people continued to ask for it year after year, I began to think that perhaps I should pick it up again. But when God specifically spoke to me about it, I obeyed, and the DOZ True Story Magazine has returned as a novel series named DOZ Chronicles with four titles currently published and sold on Amazon. And in September 2016, DOZ Regular Magazine returned as a digital magazine.
Tuesday, 28 November 2017
I am sure you have read my short stories and wondering what's next.
I had been reading a lot of stories online on abuse, domestic violence and rape. The comments that followed such stories were horrid.
Nobody in their right senses wants to be raped or would plan to be in a situation where they would be raped or abused.
No one wants to be beaten up in the name of love.
Causing a person to go through emotional, psychological, physical or mental abuse is evil. would you do that to your own child? Your sibling? So, why do it to someone else's?
I will be having a guest who will be discussing on domestic violence this week, so stay tuned.
If you have a story to tell, or have a child/children with special needs and want to tell the world how special they are, do send an email to "firstname.lastname@example.org"
Until our next post, Stay Sparkling.
Monday, 13 November 2017
Saturday, 11 November 2017
Monday, 23 October 2017
"She walks into the bedroom looking for her friend. There's nobody in the room. As she turns to leave, he walks in and locks the door.
What do you think you're doing? She asks. He pays no attention and walks towards her.
She walks backwards till there's nowhere to go. He grabs her and throws her on the bed.
I want you he says. I love you so much its driving me crazy. I can't get you out of my head.
She pleads with him, tears running down her face. Don't do this. Please, i beg you.
She hears the slit of her gown rip as he pulls at it.
I am on my period she pleaded again. please, i am on my period. She continues to cry out on the top of her voice. He appears lost and does not stop. Even the blood does not stop him.
Open this door, ''bro please open the door", screams his sister. She is banging and screaming at the same time.
This time, he stops and after a few seconds begins to weep and pull away. But it's too late. The deed has been done. He tells her he is very sorry.
He gets up and starts to leave. Just as he unlocks the door, he says to her; it's because i love you, you know.
He brushes past his sister whilst she runs to her friend who is weeping profusely on the bed. They hold on to each other as they cry.
I am so sorry for what my brother has done. Please forgive him, i beg you she says to her friend.
She gets up and tries to make herself look as decent as she can.
She feels cold and drained.
Without saying a word to her friend, she walks out and heads home.
Getting home, she could not understand why he had done it. If he says he loves me; why would he try to rape me she thought. He is my friend's brother. he has asked me out a few times and i have politely told him i was not interested. i have only just turned 19 and he is a few years older.
What he feels cannot be love but lustful desires.
She never reported it and never spoke of it every again. She told herself it never happened.
She was never able to stay friends with his sister after that day.
A few years later, she heard he had gone to jail for raping a young lady. She was shocked and then felt extremely guilty and angry at the same time.
She should have reported him years ago. Maybe this would not have happened. But the thought of anyone knowing felt so shameful. Who would believe she did not instigate it? Most importantly, who would have believed her?
No, she thought. It was best i never said anything.
Even though she feels justice has been served to him, she still lives with her secret. Her hidden scars"
The above story is what some girls,ladies, women are going through it have gone through.
Do not hide from the truth. Seek help. If you cannot confide in your mother, go to a doctor or a counsellor.
Go for check up as well. You never know what infections could be passed on.
I"ve heard a few stories going around and I wonder what would posses any one to think raping a lady is a sign of love..
Please women, do not share such burden alone.
Do not allow any boy or man steal your sparkle.
Tuesday, 17 October 2017
Saturday, 7 October 2017
Tuesday, 3 October 2017
As I grew older, I realised there were loads more sickness and disease in the world. Relocating from Nigeria to England, I realised that I didn't even know half of the ailments in the world. I have come to realise that there are so many that I cannot begin to list them. This thought has also made me ponder the weight of these sicknesses and diseases that Jesus had to bear on the cross.
Recently, I came across a mother and her daughter. Her daughter has what is known as HYDROCEPHALUS also known as water in the brain.
(watch out for their story on Friday )
Hydrocephalus is a build up of fluid on the brain. This fluid when in excess, puts pressure on the brain which can damage it.
There are three main types of hydrocephalus:
a)Congenital hydrocephalus:- This is when the child is born with excess fluid in the brain(present at birth). This is also known as water on the brain. Many babies born with hydrocephalus have permanent brain damage. Due to this, they have long term complications such as learning disabilities, memory problems, short attention span, impaired speech, vision problems, epilepsy, physical co-ordination.
b)Acquired hydrocephalus:-This develops after birth and can affect both adults and children.
This could occur after a serious head injury, complications from a medical condition like brain tumour.
c)Normal pressure hydrocephalus:-This usually only develops in older people. NPH is rare and is a poorly understood condition that affects people who are over the age of 60. It could occur after a stroke or head injury. In most cases , the cause is unknown.
Dementia, urinary incontinence ,mobility problems are all main symptoms of NPH. But, because they come gradually and are similar to symptoms of other more common conditions like Alzheimer's disease, it can be difficult to diagnose.
Regular check ups are advised to be done. Please do not take headaches for granted or any pains to do with the head.
Brain scans such as CT scan and MRI scans can be used to diagnose congenital and acquired hydrocephalus.
We will look at the treatments next week. Till then, stay sparkling.
Information source: NHS CHOICES. The Information Standard
Tuesday, 26 September 2017
I did have my doubts about it at first because I get dry scalp when I have weaves or braids on, but it sure is working for me.
No dandruff, no irritation.
I would have taken my braids off right about this time but will keep it for the full month and then I'll see what my hair look like.
Wish me luck people.
Friday, 22 September 2017
Meet a young Entrepreneur whose career is to help people have a healthy lifestyle.
|Valentine with twin brother|
He left Los Angeles for Nigeria at the age of thirteen (13) to attend an amazing boarding school called Gaius Benton at Oko, Anambra State. He was there from JSS2-SS2 (Year8-Year11). He enjoyed every minute spent there and is proud to be an Igbo man.
He returned to Los Angeles for his senior year in High school. After graduation, he was admitted into Carlifornia State University in Los Angeles were he studied Nursing and graduated with Bachelor Of Science in Nursing.
He joined a black College fraternity called the Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Inc of which he says he is proud of.
Our mission is to develop leaders, promote brotherhood and academic excellence whilst providing advocacy and services for the community. A lot of Nigerians are a part of it as well.
After he graduated, he started working but was laid off six months into the job, rather than being held back by it, he was inspired into starting a Health Management Business. Though, being laid off was very disappointing for him, it was also the best thing that could have happened to him.
Meet Valentine Ewudo of Think Alpha Project, doesn't he just sparkle?
Saturday, 16 September 2017
Give me a good pair of shoes and a beautiful dress and I just want to put them on and head out the doors.
I attended Federal College of Chemical and Leather Technology, Zaria, Kaduna State, Nigeria in 1993.
I obtained certificate in Footwear Manufacturing Process Introduction in Assutoria, Milan, Italy. I also obtained an Advanced National Diploma in Footwear Technology from Cordwinners College, United Kingdom (now known as University London College of Fashion).
I was producing shoes for ten (10) years in Nigeria before going abroad to further my studies, so I already knew the problems of production and sales in Nigeria.
I would come to Nigeria once in a while to familiarise myself with how the business works and decided to return home from Ireland were my family and I lived.
I decided it would be best to relocate my company to Nigeria.
I get my leather from Mushin, Lagos State. Though we have so much of our leather coming from Kano. I get my materials at Mushin when supply arrives from Kano. I do not import any of my raw materials.
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